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Ahuoiza's avatar

I support your hate please👍And yes, I share the same sentiments with you on marriage and parenthood, it both seems like a whole lot that gets me anxious sometimes but I don't think anyone can ever be prepared enough for all that comes with birthing a human and being responsible for them. I do plan on spending a good time after marriage alone with my husband before a child comes into the picture because once they come, they have come to stay.

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Damdam | The Creator Of Magic's avatar

Thank you for supporting my hate.😌

This marriage and parenting thing can really get one anxious. But yeah, one can never be prepared enough for parenthood.

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Charity Nnaji's avatar

Biko ooo, I love love. I'm just a hopeless lover girl, but the concept of marriage still scares me.

Can we do the relationship and skip the marriage part? Or better still, wake up to the part where we're retired, and our children are all grown up, taking us around the world?

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Shittu olubunmi Abigail's avatar

Oh ! Who will then responsible for their upbringing ?

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Damdam | The Creator Of Magic's avatar

We'll skip that or something. Lol.

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Charity Nnaji's avatar

Lol. Exactly, let's skip it.

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Giwa's avatar

In as much as I tell myself nothing concerns me about marriage, the concept still scares me 😭

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Damdam | The Creator Of Magic's avatar

I feel you.😭

I don't want to skip the phase but mehnn😫

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uc🧚's avatar

😂😂Happy Valentine's Dam Dam. Hating on relationship people is very valid and I support you. Also I understand the part about being scared, me on the other hand, I'm not scared because I've washed my hands out of marriage 🫢😂

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Damdam | The Creator Of Magic's avatar

You're supporting me and still wishing me happy Valentine's Day?😏 Thank you o.😂

What do you mean you have washed your hands keh? Stopittt 😭 or I should follow suit?🤔

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uc🧚's avatar

😂😂 follow suit please. For peace of mind

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Msnunupops's avatar

😂😂😂nooo😭 This is too reall. Call me anytime I'm up. proudly a semi-hater 😂😭

It is actually so crazy; we are really doing adult things??? Parenthood scares the hell out of me, like Im literally still torn on whether having kids in a world like ours is worth it. 🥹

They say time will tell; oh, make we dey watch sha.

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Damdam | The Creator Of Magic's avatar

Thank you for joining the hate train.😂😂

It really is scary. But time will catch up and we'll eventually live it.

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Haleemah 💕's avatar

Dammyyyy, I found you here 😍

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Damdam | The Creator Of Magic's avatar

Hii, Haleemah... didn't know I'm famous now🤭🤭

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Shittu olubunmi Abigail's avatar

You gat nothing to be scared of ,marriage is part of life, you don't need to rush into it when you are not ready, it's not a must to start raising kids immediately after marriage, you can take time to enjoy with yr spouse before the arrival of kids. But truth be told, someone was responsible for yr existence, so you have to be for another to fulfill the plan of God, be fruitful and multiply.

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Damdam | The Creator Of Magic's avatar

It's still scary whether you are doing it when you're ready, as you can't even be prepared enough. But it's something we'll face eventually.

And yeah, we'd just have to be responsible for other people. It's a phase of life.

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Azeezah Oguntayo's avatar

I love this. I love that I'm not alone on taking time to transition to parenthood axiom. The thought of being responsible for another human is just terrifying for me.

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Damdam | The Creator Of Magic's avatar

You're not alone o.

Because what do you mean I'll be the head of a home?😫

But we'll figure it out. There are no perfect parents. There are people who show up.

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