Why Are You Accepting The Love You Don't Deserve?

Every shackles of situationship in your life, be broken by fire!!!

First of all, cavalry greetings to all the single homeboys and girlies reading this, may your days be long and your money be plentiful, and your skin continue to glow.

As for everyone trapped in the shackles of situationships disguised as a potential relationship and deluded by the uncommitment of evil men and women, be released by fire!

AMEN?!

Relationship people can fok off. We'll remember you in December.

Okay you can stay. We could use your input on this one.

Back to my target audience—situationship boys and girls. Hehehehe. Okay, let me tone it down a bit now that we've said the first prayers.

But I've got a question for you.

Why do you accept the love you don't deserve?

(I would have used “we” but my Jesus didn't die for me to still remain there)

But again, I ask this with all sincerity and curiosity?

Why do we accept breadcrumbed love when we can just walk away? I know it's not as easy as it sounds, but we deserve better than a recurring blend of inconsistency, lack of commitment, and vibes laced with selective desires.

Or is this a preference for wallowing in a ‘Ship’ that fills us in a state of limited ecstasy—perhaps we don't feel inadequate enough to want more. But when deep down you want more and deserve more, and could be giving more, only to receive bread crumbs.

Oh, trust me, I have been there. Lived there, slept, woke up, ate and shat there before I eventually phased out of it. I used to think perhaps I could get them to love me as much as I did, even when I knew deep down they weren't serious with me. But I accepted bread crumbs, while I craved for more. To be honest, I didn't know what to call it then, but we were neither in a relationship nor were we lovers. But they knew I loved them, embraced it, kept me around until finally I could bring myself out( after asking them the truth).

Perhaps I was just fooling myself into thinking they would want me or wanted me too, while they were just being themselves. But nahh, I know what it was. And that's why you should ask yourself, “Do you really deserve this?”

Is this feeling mutual? On the same level and frequency? Because even if they aren't conscious (or pretend to be), you gotta tell yourself the truth.

My friend Tame says there's an underlying low self-esteem attached to it. And I can understand her. Because there's no way your mummy and daddy gave birth to you for one boy or girl to be doing on and off love with you. There's love at home, please. Even if there isn't, my Lord and Personal Saviour didn't die for nonsense. So pick yourself up, gee, and walk away from such an unhealthy relationship.

You probably might not even want or be ready for a serious relationship yet—sometimes trauma has a way of lurking around—but then you can stay single (like me and the few good people in this world). Not because I said so, but because you can. Yes, my friend, you can.

Before you do so physically, you have to mentally clock out of it. Acknowledge that they're not into you and forgive yourself. It's fine, you will still meet good people ahead. Get clarity from the party involved too. Crazy, I know right? But it could be a you-problem or theirs. However the results, you weigh their actions with their words relative to yours, and what you truly want. This is the mental and emotional maths you have to deal with, unless, there will only be self-awareness and not self-development.

And if you're someone driving someone's child crazy, it's not okay. You can do better by telling them the truth.

They might be able to bring themselves to stay away due to whatever benefits it gives them, so you do the honours. And JYSK, telling them the truth and still entertaining the love they show, and even giving them bits in return, is not what you think it is.

This is also why having good friends can not be overemphasized. My friends could tell how mentally fazed I was then.

My homegirl Tolu has sent me to you with this.

Please pray for your friends to get out of useless relationships. Affliction will not rise the second time, and may Tinubu not befall us again.

Love and magic, always.

Damdam.

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I recently watched a new podcast about Situationship becoming the NEW Normal. And that's what prompted this piece. Please watch, like, and subscribe. And mention my name in the comments (let me feel like an influencer pleaseee) Thank you.