Who does the therapist talk to…

..when she can't help it?

Wagwan, my people?(this is a question, so I expect a reply)

Okay, for the family members that just joined, and the ones that came when Osas posted my link(Shout-out to Osas), welcome!

I'm Damdam, Creator of Magic. Their Daddy's daddy, sugarboy to different women and boyfriend to Tems, Korty, Oddity and Osas.

I know, I know.

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But really, wagwan though? It's been crazy these past few weeks. Nigeria has tried our mental health. The moment you think nothing can amaze you again, Nigeria comes to shock you. But, we'll be fine innit? We'll thrive for sure.

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Who does the therapist talk to when she can no longer take it? 

This came to my mind the morning I thought of writing this. If everyone goes to the therapist in their lowest days and she helps or guides them into solving their problems, who does she talk to when things go south for her?

Does she run to her helpless clients who have no clue on how to get out of their ugly situation?

How does she tell them that she can't solve her own problems since she helps people solve theirs?

It's crazy but I felt this way these past weeks. I have been numb about the direction of the affairs of my life. For someone that's so quick to proffer solutions to people's lives or business, I have been stuck on how to solve my problems. Like a content strategist that can't be strategic about his own brand.

Is it me or is it just difficult to make decisions about certain things about yourself (especially when you have the ability to do many things- multipotentialite) and yet you can easily do so for others?

Does this sound familiar?

I don't know if you've been in this situation before. It's like a relationship coach who needs help with his relationship. What happened to your teachings and books, Solomon Buchi?

I know things like this happen but what do you think? Each day I wake up, it feels like I'm fighting for my life.

Yet, It feels like I'm helping people build their dreams and I'm not building mine.

For someone that has good listening ears, I can't hear my own voice…I once told someone to do some self awareness check, so he could help himself out of a situation. Meanwhile, I couldn't do the same for myself.

Or maybe I knew the problem and I don't know how to address it. Maybe I was just scared.

If you're like me, you'd know there are times when following your own advice is hard. Even when it comes to romantic relationships, you become the "clueless therapist."

Who do you go to?

I just want you to realize that it's okay to be like that. I have been there before. And I know how it feels. Whether you're a business owner or not, there are times when you feel helpless and you need a push. A drive. A force to back you up. Sometimes, it's imposter syndrome kicking in.

But, first acknowledge that you have this challenge.

I'm not so overwhelmed as I have prayed, talked to my accountability partner, Iswat (she's like my therapist) and I'm better now. 

I wasn't going to talk about this before but I figured some  people might be on this table. Times when you're disturbed about something and you really can't help yourself. You want to but it seems like you don't know how to.

Heyy, it's okay to feel that way. I think it's one of the "perks" of adulthood. Especially as a Gen Z navigating life. But, if it's one thing I know that can help, is to open up. It can be pretty hard innit. But, if you need clarity, you gotta talk. Talk to God, talk to a friend. Even talk to yourself.

If you seem to have lost your aura, don't force it. Don't stress, give it time. I'm pretty sure you'll find yourself back. But, you must be self aware.  'cause without self awareness, self development won't happen.

I'll have to stop here. I don't want to be tagged as a "motivational speaker." Even though some people believe I'm best at it.

Nahh, I'm not much of a fan of aspire-to-maguire speakers but there are some things that have proven therapeutic for me. Having an accountability partner who I rant to a lot of times; writing and reading this newsletter…

Am I completely over it? Not yet. As I'm human and sometimes I get impostor syndrome which takes me back.  It's okay to not be okay. You'll figure it out. Like you have been doing. Remember, you're a figureouter. hehehe

Lol. Fr tho.

But, you don't have to do it all by yourself. Till we meet again…

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Love and Magic,

Damdam.

P.S: Let me know what you do when you find yourself in a similar situation.